Today is that hardest of days I go through every year.
It was 17(!) years ago today that I lost the greatest man I ever knew.
Perhaps it explains why I have not been handling the usual ups and downs of life very well in the past week. That thought really didn’t dawn on my until late yesterday afternoon, but it makes sense. Our subconscious minds work in amazing ways that we don’t even realize, and yeah, I get down, and not in the good way sometimes! (heh!)
See? Even in the throes of funkitis, I’ve still got it.
That sense of humor comes straight from Daddy, by the way. He was the best. Just look at that face. You could see it in his sweet smile.
Anyway.
I wanted to commemorate this day by doing my annual re-posting this of this list of wonderful memories about Daddy.
Some of the things about Daddy that are my best and funniest memories…
1) His laugh.
2) His Elvis sideburns that he absolutely never shaved off to the end.
3) His worn out boxer shorts.
4) His love of Budweiser.
5) How all he had to do was look at me and I knew I’d better do what he said!
6) His garage dogs, Harley, Honda, and Shithead.
7) Riding his 3-wheelers across the street by the canal.
8 ) His fake binoculars to carry booze in to the Dolphins games.
9) Taking me to the Bee Gees concert in 1979 and watching as all of us teeny boppers went nuts, then dragging him to the premier of Sgt. Peppers Lonely Hearts Club Band (poor guy!)
10) Singing to the tune of Old Rugged Cross: “On a hill far away, stood an old Chevrolet, all covered with rust and decay.”
11) Reading the paper in his easy chair and falling asleep while still holding the paper in front of him.
12) Eating a half gallon (yes, the entire box) of ice cream. He liked Rum Raisin from Farm Stores.
13) Taking us on a trip around all of the Florida tourist attractions. Disney World…
14) Taking me to college.
15) Buying me my first car…the white 1976 Camaro.
16) Cookouts at Crandon Park Beach.
17) Cookouts in our backyard brick barbecue pit.
18) Smoky, the black Chow
19) Going to his 30 year class reunion and wondering who all the old people were when he got there.
20) Dragging him to Olan Mills after my college graduation for the only family picture we ever had taken.
21) Al’s Auto Service. The apartment behind the garage. The railroad tracks behind the garage.
22) His friends, Uncle Dee, Tommy, Buddy Ryan, Billy Barnwell, Charlie…
23) His auto parts calendars. (Mechanics will know what I’m talking about.)
24) Taking me to the airport to go back to school/Nashville.
25) Kissing me bye at the airport.
26) Going out to eat every Friday night, without fail.
27) Pro wrestling at the Miami Beach Convention Center.
28) Bowling leagues.
29) Daytona in the infield.
30) His voice. His face. His hugs.
I miss you, Daddy.
I always will.
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Hugs to you. My day is February 28.
I understand more than I can say.
This is such a sweet post, Ginger. It’s a sad post, but it’s also so great that you have these good memories of him. I’m thinking about you today…
Hugs.
Good memories are the best.
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Beautiful. I wish you well and thank you for sharing some of your memories here. Your words are inspiring to me.
That is so sweet. More hugs.
Love you cuz
Even when I think there are no words, you come up with some, missy.
Thank you, from a fellow daddy’s girl. Sept. 25 will be 18 years. And I can still hear him say “Heeeey,” laughingly, when he answered my phone calls. Thank God my niece, his granddaughter, is just like him, down to the laugh. (My brother-in-law says Daddy trained her before she got here. I believe him.)
We send you bearhugs.
This is a great post. It meant a lot for me to read it. I lost my dad just a few months ago, and I often wonder what this grief will look like in years to come. I’m glad the memories don’t fade. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
I’m glad you have all those memories to hang on to… Thoughts headed your way…
I lost my dad in 2000 (Election Day). It changed my whole world too. Unconditional love is hard to find; hard to lose… It sounds like your dad gave you his best and helped grow a wonderful human being. Enjoy the warm memories…
newscoma: Hugs back to you…and as my soul sistah, I know you understand me sometimes better than I understand myself.
Megan: Thank you so much. Yeah, 9/17 has always been “bittersweet” since 1991…I could easily laugh and cry at the same time. I’m pretty much a mess.
Linda: Hugs back. Thank you for your friendship.
chez bez: You, my friend, are inspiring to me!
heartbreaktown: I appreciate those hugs so much!
Cousin Dave: Love you back, cuz! I just knew you’d be here.
grandefille: Awwww! Yes, I was “daddy’s little girl” too! Your comment totally warmed my heart up so much. I can’t even put it into words.
kateanon: Thank you for your sweet thoughts. Yes, the memories keep me hanging on sometimes.
Heather: Ah, you know, too. Yes, it’s that unconditional love that I miss so much…I could always count on it. Thank you for such kind words!
Hey Ginger…I always think about you on this day and hope that each year gets a little easier for you. I lost my dad 19 years ago come November, and my mom passed in March of this year. I still think about both of them every single day. Anyway…
I know your daddy would be so proud of you for turning an awful situation into something positive with the work you’ve done with MADD. You’ll never know how many people your story has influenced to make the decision not to drink and drive.
I’m sending big hugs your way…
This year if the 25th anniversary of the date I lost my dad…on October 16th. I understand, but it doesn’t get alot better…I still miss him…
I look at him, I see you.
Love, hugs, and prayers. And serious real-life huggin’ soon!
Johnny B: How sweet that you always remember. I do hope my daddy’s proud.
Susie: I’m sure that you can’t believe it’s been 25 years. That is a huge milestone. I sometimes feel it’s been a lifetime since I’ve seen him, yet other days it seems like just yesterday.
Mack: That is the greatest compliment you have ever given me. *hugs*
holly: Thank you for everything. I can’t wait to see you Saturday.
I’m sorry I missed this yesterday. Lots of love and hugs to you!